How To Stop A Breakup
What Can Be Done To Stop A Breakup
The one problem with falling in love is that sometimes the two people involved can’t work everything out and must break up. Often the first steps to stopping a break up include things NOT to do as well as things you NEED to do. Initially, we’ll explore behaviors you should adopt, then we’ll dive into some of those behaviors you’ll want to avoid.
Behaviors To Adopt To Stop A Breakup:
Practice The Three C’s – Calm, Cool & Collected
You shouldn’t be surprised by a breakup which allows ample time for emotional preparation but in the rare case where it comes as a shock you need to get a grip on yourself. You do not want the last impression you leave with someone to be that you have some anger management or emotional issues. Often it is helpful to keep in mind that this is the first pass, and that reconciliation can occur in the near term.
Help Them Get What They Want
You’ll find that many of life’s best things come from helping others. While you may really want to stop a breakup, often it is best to put your wants aside for the moment and help the other person get what they want – a breakup. While this may sound counterintuitive, stop for a minute and think about how this will go. Quietly affirm that a breakup is the best course of action, and that you feel that it will be a positive thing for both of you. Although you’re feeling let down and sad, it’s true, this is still the best thing to have happen. The other individual will start to consider why you even thought breaking up was the right thing to do. It is only human nature.
A great Relationship Guru, T W Jackson, goes into more detail in his best selling ebook the Magic of Making Up. It is a great resource and has invaluable advice for stopping a break up and getting your ex back. You can get this invaluable resource here: Stop The Split
Steps NOT To Take To Stop A Breakup:
Electronic Stalking
It doesn’t matter how you found out that this individual wants to end the relationship, stop text messaging. You know what I am talking about, the messages that constantly want to know why or a total confession of true, everlasting love. Sometimes people will seek out the help of their circle to pressure the other person to remain in a relationship with you. This can be considered harassment and can only lead to a restraining order against you. This tactic won’t help you to stop a breakup, but it will reinforce the idea that the breakup was necessary. And be clear, their family isn’t trying to fix the relationship, but wondering what they ever saw in you at all.
Drunken Dialing
This is another term coined by the great relationship guru T W Jackson who has a best selling ebook “The Magic of Making Up”. We’re all aware of it and at some point or another have taken part in it. While out with friends in an effort to forget your relationship woes, you down a few too many alcoholic beverages. After having some alcohol, you believe that you are now ready to call your ex-girlfriend and win back her affections. Wrong, Wrong, WRONG! This will make you look like a complete idiot and cause the other person to subscribe to a phone number that is unlisted.
While the items above have been written with a little humor, they are very real. Don’t panic if you’ve done some of the Things NOT To Do, or even skipped every idea on the other list as well. Assistance is available, and solutions can be found. You should have a look at the copy of The Magic Of Making Up: Stop The Split
Frequently, a breakup can be a very traumatic experience because love deals with the human heart. Clearly, then, you’ll need a good deal of assistance to help you stop a breakup and overcome the obstacles in your path. Time really does heal all wounds of the heart, and I will be sending you blessings.
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